Picture this situation: You are grilling hamburgers tonight for supper. You finish them up and they are grilled perfectly. You bring these perfectly grilled hamburgers in and look around. You ask your wife, “where are the sliced tomatoes?” After all, perfectly grilled hamburgers need perfectly sliced tomatoes. Your wife is slicing the onion and without even looking up flatly states that she forgot to pick up the tomatoes. You get angry. “What?” You exclaim, with a very unhappy tone in your voice “You seemed to remember the onion that you like on your hamburger but not the tomatoes I like on mine!” It also bothers you that she is not at all sorry that she forgot the tomatoes. She knows that you can’t enjoy a hamburger without sliced tomatoes. Think about this… where did the husband’s anger come from? If you said the anger came from an inconsiderate wife, then you would be wrong. If you said the anger came from a selfish husband, then you would be right. The husband placed more value on himself than he did on his wife. If he valued his wife as a person, a life partner, his best friend, then he would have been disappointed but it would not have been anger. What he should have said is, “Oh rats what a shame”, and then say that he will get the ketchup and mustard out of the fridge. Read what God says about selfish anger. What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you do ask, you do not receive because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. James 4:1-3 You want to stop being angry at your wife? Then place her happiness as more important than your own. If she values her car being clean, then decide in your own mind that she is of high value and take action on that decision and clean her car. But you say, my wife does not value me, why should I value her. You as the man need to take the lead on this. If you value her, show her kindness, give her a hug when you come home from work and let her tell you about her day. Then she will decide also to value you. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church. Ephesians 5:25; 28-29 Look at those passages carefully. Notice how the husband’s love for his wife is compared to Christ’s love for the church. You want to stop being angry with your wife? Love her as Christ loves the Church.
0 Comments
Leave a Reply. |
Archives
March 2018
Categories |